Nothing worth blogging about has happened in my life since my last post. Until now. And now I understand why. I have been too busy. Working too hard. Spending too little time thinking.
Of course, it was a TED-talk - this time from psychologist Shawn Achor - which made me think. My favourite quote from the talk probably is
Not just how to move people up to the average, but how to move the entire average up.
which he mentions while talking about how it’s the anomalies that are really worth studying and how that’s how you discover new things. In todays society, we often tend to focus on the normal and how to make everyone fit the same mold. The only problem with the normal is that is normal because it’s average. Think about it, most people say “I’m rather normal” which has a good ring to it, but how would it sound to say “I’m rather average” – quite a difference, right? Doesn’t sound very positive, does it? I don’t think many people would call themselves average, even though it basically means the same thing as normal.
The part of his talk which really got to me though was
First, every time your brain has a success, you just changed the goalpost of what success looked like. You got good grades, now you have to get better grades […] And if happiness is on the opposite side of success, your brain never gets there.
Why did this get my attention? Well, for starters, it’s about education – my pet peeve – and secondly, I recognised myself completely in it. During my “higher education” in high school and at the university I felt a need to get good grades, really good grades. I never thought about why back then, it was just something you should do. Study hard to get a good future and then become happy, I guess.
The only problem was that it very quickly became meaningless. Achieving good grades, that is. It became mechanical. No feelings involved what so ever. Sure, it was… fun(?) to learn new things and the good grades became a tangible result of this, but it never made me feel successful. Never made me feel happy. Not then and not afterwards. It was just hard work and a lot of stress.
During his research, Shawn discovered the same thing while studying students at the prestigious Harvard university.
And what I found in my research and my teaching is that these students, no matter how happy they were with their original success of getting into the school, two weeks later their brains were focused, not on the privilege of being there, nor on their philosophy or their physics. Their brain was focused on the competition, the workload, the hassles, the stresses, the complaints.
Isn’t this sad and once again an example of how schools – even the “best” ones – absolutely kill creativity and take the fun out of learning?
So, why should we focus on becoming happy instead of just successful? Well, because it will allow us to “move the entire average up”.
Because dopamine, which floods into your system when you’re positive, has two functions. Not only does it make you happier, it turns on all of the learning centers in your brain allowing you to adapt to the world in a different way.
“Having fun” just doesn’t make you happier, it also makes you smarter! That’s really amazing! The only problem for me, is his recipie for how to get there. How to become more positive and thus happier.
We’ve done these things in research now in every single company that I’ve worked with, getting them to write down three new things that they’re grateful for for 21 days in a row, three new things each day. And at the end of that, their brain starts to retain a pattern of scanning the world, not for the negative, but for the positive first.
For a cynic like myself, this recipie sounds all too easy – like all those “Teach yourself X in 21 days” books – and something that might work for average people, but not for people who tend to think and analyse too much. People like myself. But I’ll give it a go, starting right now:
Three things I am grateful for today:
1. My wonderful 45 minute training session in the sun down at the beach close to where I live. Running barefoot 1 km to the beach and then playing(!) MovNat-style at the beach for about half an hour before running home again felt absolutely great. Thinking about it, natural exercise has similar effects to what Shawn is talking about. Playing on a beach is quite a different exercise compared to sitting in a machine in a gym.
2. Sitting in the sofa reading books with my three year old son.
3. Eating half a pack of Ben & Jerry’s Phish Food ice cream.
Wow, wasn’t that hard. Will be interesting to see how tomorrow goes – a normal Monday at work where I will spend the whole afternoon looking at my watch in order to not forget about time and become late to pick up my son from kindergarten.
See you in 21 days!

